One of my favorite girls was discharged
today. She was always so bright and cheerful, open and honest. She
smiled as she packed her bags, excited to go home, but nervous too. I
helped her get everything together and felt a little sentimental as
she left my unit, beaming.
She came back 30 minutes later in
tears.
Unbeknownst to us, her father had come
to pick her up. The problem was that her father did not have custody
of her, and the minute he saw his daughter he began to swear and
curse at her, calling her names and mocking his child. The nurse
discharging her simply turned around and took her back.
I talked to her, and all she said was
“I don't know why I expected anything different. He's always
making fun of me, calling me fat or ugly or stupid.”
It was terrible to see her lose her
smile. Even though technically it was bedtime, I set her up with a
movie while we waited to see if her mother would be able to come and
get her. Every time I did rounds, I poked my head in to make sure she
was okay, and she would give me a wan smile.
When we finally got word that her mother would be able to pick her up, I was relieved to tell her—and
checked to make sure that she was comfortable going home with her.
She nodded, looking a little less distraught. She asked if she could
lay down while waiting for her, and of course I agreed.
Not everyone who has children deserves
them. This girl was bright, smart, popular and beautiful. She was
ambitious and practical, and I watched everything she had learned
here dissolve under the insults of her father. I hope her mother offers more support, but I have seen a great many kids come and go
here; it's almost like a revolving door. There are some kids who act
out right before they are set to be discharged just because they're
scared to leave. If they tell us why, we try to help, but sometimes
they are so used to silence they don't know anything else. In that
case, all we have is a vague sense of something being wrong, and we
can't report that to CPS. We can, however, pull their social workers
aside, and hope that they are able to glean more information.
And for this girl, all I could do it
hope that her mother will help her grow and thrive—and that she'll
never have to talk to her father again.
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